Add Positivity to Your Life

Add Positivity to Your Life:

We are surrounded by energies around us. These energies can be positive or negative. I have seen people who are so pessimist in their life; as soon as they try to speak they will talk something negative. Either they are not happy with situations or person or anything. They are just negative in approach; they fail to see positive side of any scenario. Such people always release negativity and you start feeling negative as their energy is influencing yours.

You can be one of them. It’s not your boss, colleagues, parents, kids, spouse, lover, ex, traffic, but your own perception that creates stress and negative energy. Why? So negative, is getting stressed out is going to solve anything? Your problems are appearing horrible; possibly they are not that big, your negative approach towards it making them appears big. Ideally what should you do? Very first thing calm down yourself; Try to study your scenario, why are you upset with certain situation or person? What could be worst thing will happen? After having your answers, you know your worse situation that has to be faced. So try to find solution to it. Try to see positive aspect of that situation. I am sure you will come up with very sound solution and if there are no solution than at least enough energy and mindset to face that problem or let go it.

Do not dwell on negatives. Things happens, its how you respond to it matters. If you choose to victimize by what happens then your negative energy will gain momentum. Stop thinking about it if there is nothing you can do to improve it, if thought comes up about the situations, do not allow it to continue, force yourself to divert. Try to find blessing and lessons from the situation.

It’s not easy, it will take time but you will surely stop dwelling in negativity further. 

For instance, “This job is terrible! My boss is a jerk and nobody appreciates me!” Don’t think this way, instead think: “I’m looking for a better job and meantime I’m trying to learn as much as I can so I benefit. In fact, my boss is the perfect example of how not to treat employees!”  You can’t undo anything. It’s done. Forgive others, forgive yourself… learn from your mistakes, learn from others’ mistakes. The Unkind or thoughtless actions are not outcome of love but they are from your deep inner pain, release this energetic burden you are carrying, grudges, resentments, pain, hurt, sadness, anger, guilt….. Let it all go.

Whenever you criticize, judge or blame others, you are choosing to focus on what they are doing wrong or what’s wrong with them. And you give these people power to control your mood and state of mind. Ask yourself why someone’s behavior irritates you so much that you allow yourself to get upset about it? Why give them power to control your happiness? Instead of criticizing, judging or blaming, find something you can compliment them on and you cannot do that also than stop thinking about it and let it go.

So how positive approach affects us? Positive people are optimist people; who are full of life and zest. Its not that they don’t have problems or issues, but the most important thing they have is their approach towards life. Their mindset works on positive thoughts. Whenever any situations or people come into their life, they try to avoid their negative sides and focus on positive aspects. They accept the world as it is. They will generally say good about people, you will hardly find them negative about anything unless it’s damn annoying or disturbing their peace of mind. Positive energy is contagious. When you constantly take in positive energy from your surroundings, it will be visible in the outer world. You will get to see that people love to be around you and your company, as you are great source of positive energy. They love to share things with you, spend time with you. Your mere presence makes their day, you make them smile, and make them feel good. You are not doing it purposely; it’s just your positive outlook that sees good in everyone and make them feel good about themselves.

Life is so busy these days. We are caught up in our day to day activities that we forget to think about others.  But small gesture of kindness or love can make someone’s day, make you feel good about yourself. Its could be anything, like hold an elevator door for someone, appreciating your colleague for good work, plan a vacation for your parents or someone dear, buy food to beggar who comes to you, complimenting someone that they are looking great, wishing good morning to your people, telling your maid - you are lucky to find her, great food mom, appreciating others, etc. These all things are possible if you have positive thinking.

I would like to mention here well know quote by Buddha,

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” ~Buddha

The things you say, the things you think, the things you do—even the things you don’t do—all produce energy that impacts you and the people around you. If you work on creating more positive energy, you’ll see improvements in your life and you’ll touch more lives than you thought possible. 

Good luck and stay positive..... 

Love and Relationships

Love and Relationships:

We come across many people in our life but we are not falling for every individual from opposite gender. Why only someone different or special clicks our mind? Your heartbeat rises when u see them? A lovely feeling isn’t it?

Is it Attraction or Infatuation or Lust or Love?

Well to be very frank, when you like someone it always starts with Attraction and nothing to do with love. 

Attraction, suddenly you find someone so pretty. Oh wow so beautiful! Love at first sight feeling. They are picture perfect for us. Say looks; physic all seems great, even their thoughts sounds amazing…..hahahaha! Getting attracted to someone is normal and very ok, but falling in love solely on the premise of that physical attraction is a what? A relationship failure, break-up.

Infatuation, looks like love, feels like love, includes romantic feelings…best suitable word is Lust. Whatever you are feeling neither fake nor real.  Quote – Love is blind perfect suits here. Your mind has selected a person purely on basis of attraction, you start developing feelings, your mind giving false impression that you are in love. But when a person or you yourself ask this question why you love this person, no answer. Because you don’t know. Some bad chapters and story gets over. You even start hating that person, you were claiming being in love. You come to know that it was just an infatuation when you fall for someone today and less than a month later, you feel the same way towards someone else. Sorry to say but love is not blind and will never. It’s you who need to wake up and understand the reality. Sometimes relationship gets develops just out of physical attraction, purely lust. Urge gets satisfied and than relationship fails to survive. In today’s mindset of people - Move On rocks. 

So what is love??? Love is to know that individual. It's not based on mere looks alone, or material and emotional gains. Your eyes are well opened, and you know what you are getting into, and you know what you are doing. You can describe the good and bad qualities of this person, and confidently explain why you are so in love with him or her. You have misunderstandings but you resolve them in a matured and very reasonable manner, rather than dissolving the relationship. You don't try to hide who you are, you accept your mistakes. You feel a sense of loyalty, fierce loyalty towards them. Their pain is your pain, and their joy is your joy. They don't take advantage of you, don't force you to go against your wish, proffers suggestions on how to deal with a matter, and allow you make a choice. Respect your privacy, realize you can make mistakes, forgives you easily because they feel empathy towards your situation. Forgives you and never brings the matter up, nor discuss your wrong doings with friends. Proud of you and your accomplishments, no matter how little. Never comparing you to another, but will rather seek to bring you up to standards in love. Love is kind, Love endures, love is not jealous, Love is not proud. Love, is more than just a feeling. Love makes a person act in accordance with knowledge, devoid of ignorance, immaturity, stupidity, childishness. Love has no time for "silent treatment". It faces the issue head on, resolves it and forges ahead. When in love, your heart speaks, but your brain listens and assesses. Infatuation fades with time, but love grows stronger with time. Love is when you look beyond attraction and infatuation, Love, is more than saying "I love you".

Love, love, love…..a very sacred and divine feel.  For an instance, being a parent how you love your kid is best example of true love. You feel happy seeing them happy and more over you may not be reason for their happiness. You feel amazing when they achieve success. Days are passing; your child is getting grown up and independent. Distance starts developing as they are getting busy in their life and definitely they are not small babies to cuddle anymore, still you love them seeing them happy and progressing and it never fades. You might be having lots of expectations from your children and even if they fail to fulfil them or ignore it whatever may be circumstances, you don’t hate them. You still care for them. And that’s love. If you are feeling same kind of love for the person in your life, where you are happy seeing them happy and content, may be they are part of your life or not, you don’t hate them or say failing to hate them. You love them. They could be anyone, your best friend, parents, life partner, soul mate, platonic partner, lover, anyone  if you are finding your feelings as per this than dude you love that person. Cheers !!!!!

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