Love and Relationships

Love and Relationships:

We come across many people in our life but we are not falling for every individual from opposite gender. Why only someone different or special clicks our mind? Your heartbeat rises when u see them? A lovely feeling isn’t it?

Is it Attraction or Infatuation or Lust or Love?

Well to be very frank, when you like someone it always starts with Attraction and nothing to do with love. 

Attraction, suddenly you find someone so pretty. Oh wow so beautiful! Love at first sight feeling. They are picture perfect for us. Say looks; physic all seems great, even their thoughts sounds amazing…..hahahaha! Getting attracted to someone is normal and very ok, but falling in love solely on the premise of that physical attraction is a what? A relationship failure, break-up.

Infatuation, looks like love, feels like love, includes romantic feelings…best suitable word is Lust. Whatever you are feeling neither fake nor real.  Quote – Love is blind perfect suits here. Your mind has selected a person purely on basis of attraction, you start developing feelings, your mind giving false impression that you are in love. But when a person or you yourself ask this question why you love this person, no answer. Because you don’t know. Some bad chapters and story gets over. You even start hating that person, you were claiming being in love. You come to know that it was just an infatuation when you fall for someone today and less than a month later, you feel the same way towards someone else. Sorry to say but love is not blind and will never. It’s you who need to wake up and understand the reality. Sometimes relationship gets develops just out of physical attraction, purely lust. Urge gets satisfied and than relationship fails to survive. In today’s mindset of people - Move On rocks. 

So what is love??? Love is to know that individual. It's not based on mere looks alone, or material and emotional gains. Your eyes are well opened, and you know what you are getting into, and you know what you are doing. You can describe the good and bad qualities of this person, and confidently explain why you are so in love with him or her. You have misunderstandings but you resolve them in a matured and very reasonable manner, rather than dissolving the relationship. You don't try to hide who you are, you accept your mistakes. You feel a sense of loyalty, fierce loyalty towards them. Their pain is your pain, and their joy is your joy. They don't take advantage of you, don't force you to go against your wish, proffers suggestions on how to deal with a matter, and allow you make a choice. Respect your privacy, realize you can make mistakes, forgives you easily because they feel empathy towards your situation. Forgives you and never brings the matter up, nor discuss your wrong doings with friends. Proud of you and your accomplishments, no matter how little. Never comparing you to another, but will rather seek to bring you up to standards in love. Love is kind, Love endures, love is not jealous, Love is not proud. Love, is more than just a feeling. Love makes a person act in accordance with knowledge, devoid of ignorance, immaturity, stupidity, childishness. Love has no time for "silent treatment". It faces the issue head on, resolves it and forges ahead. When in love, your heart speaks, but your brain listens and assesses. Infatuation fades with time, but love grows stronger with time. Love is when you look beyond attraction and infatuation, Love, is more than saying "I love you".

Love, love, love…..a very sacred and divine feel.  For an instance, being a parent how you love your kid is best example of true love. You feel happy seeing them happy and more over you may not be reason for their happiness. You feel amazing when they achieve success. Days are passing; your child is getting grown up and independent. Distance starts developing as they are getting busy in their life and definitely they are not small babies to cuddle anymore, still you love them seeing them happy and progressing and it never fades. You might be having lots of expectations from your children and even if they fail to fulfil them or ignore it whatever may be circumstances, you don’t hate them. You still care for them. And that’s love. If you are feeling same kind of love for the person in your life, where you are happy seeing them happy and content, may be they are part of your life or not, you don’t hate them or say failing to hate them. You love them. They could be anyone, your best friend, parents, life partner, soul mate, platonic partner, lover, anyone  if you are finding your feelings as per this than dude you love that person. Cheers !!!!!

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